I want to make a difference in someone's life, I always wanted to make that impact on others that will touch them in a way that will leave a lasting impact upon them. For so many years I've been always reaching for something, joining organizations that help those who are in need, volunteering where I am needed, and overall trying to do what I can as one person with the idea that some things are much larger then I am and what difference could I make due to that.
The choices I made trying to find a place to fit in that would do the most impact have lead me to many avenues and roads in going back and rejoining the world of continuing education. So down that winding road, I've come to a lot of road blocks and openings. With the one most recently coming to a road block where the decision had to be made if I was going to try and break that wall down and continue waiting and waiting with no idea if I was going to be accepted among the list, the classes that were not accepted and had to be retaken and with every waiting moment the clock ticked, taking one more minute of time that I felt I could make that difference away.
There seemed to be no way around it, this road just didn't seem to be where I was supposed to go and no matter how hard I tried, it just seemed like it wasn't meant to be. And that's what was so good about having the opportunity to make a choice especially when that opportunity becomes available. So with the help of a special friend and a wonderful reply in e-mail, my questions, research and the advice given had been answered and that road block opened up officialy to another road and a new program of choice that was officially accepted starting today and begins Spring 2010.
Elementary/General Special Education [PreK-12]
As I see it, there IS a reason for everything :o)
Sunday, November 29, 2009
Sometimes You Just Miss Home...
The Great Smokey's, nothing in my life had prepared me for the wonder of those mountains, smoke blue and serene folded one behind the other. I counted 11 ranges rising up towards the vault of the sky. I didn't realize it then, but from the very first moment I saw them, the mountains were a source of peace and strength for me, always there to quiet my mind and satisfy my heart.
-Catherine Marshall's 'Christy'
Is it Just Me....
But when I was going overseas this past September I got SO HOOKED into Twilight, you know that vampire sage about the guy who falls for the non-vamp girl who now wants to become a vamp but he doesn't want her to and then she falls for the dog boy and can't figure out which want she wants more...Still with me?
I mean I was SO EXCITED about the New Moon Movie coming out, I downloaded a copy of all four books and listened to them on my Ipod on those LONG plane rides when Air France couldn't keep my attention on the movies pre-loaded for us to watch. But when the movie came out....
I'm so disappointed :o(
I mean I guess it's just not my cup of tea and I'm glad I saved my money and watched it **COUGH COUGH** online then to spend 10 Bucks plus food expenses to see a bunch of "Dog Boys" running around with no shirts on in the rain, fussing over this wanna-be vamp girl who still doesn't get to be a vamp and likes to jump off of cliffs. (WHAT WAS THAT BTW!)
Yeah, I know...There is something terribly wrong with me :-p
Surviving the Holidays as a Muslim or Muslimah
You know one of the biggest things that we are CONSTANTLY having to deal with in a Western Society is the fact that;
1. Islam isn't so HUGE yet where it's really recognized totally as a holiday when we do celebrate our EID's. I mean I get so excited to see EID and Ramadan listed on US calenders and in day-planners that I go out of my way to buy JUST THOSE specific ones (Lame I know) But think about it in most cases we have to remind people that HEY EID is coming up, where of course with Christmas it's a gimme and it just happens.
2. It's hard to adjust especially when it comes to family and reverts who are the only ones in the family that are Muslim.
Well as I am a revert myself, I experienced this and still do dealing with a very wonderful but very diverse family who sometimes just don't understand why Bumbee and I don't celebrate and won't join them or participate in some of the functions that they have, but will on others. But it just depends on how you see things and how open you are.
I've heard SOOO many horror stories about New Muslims and even more seasoned Muslim who just BASH their family and friends playing Rocky Balboa in the ring because of their beliefs and reject EVERYTHING causing issues and rifts in families. You've just been sucker punched and ROUND ONE DOES NOT GO TO THE MUSLIMS because THIS IS SO NOT THE WAY TO DO THIS!
For Me, I guess you can say I'm a little bit more liberal and that depends on how close you are to the deen. I know that no matter what I'm not going to compromise my beliefs just for sharing your Turkey, Cranberry Blob and Sweet Potato Pie, if anything I wish Arabs would adopt those kinds of eating habits more **HINT, HINT**
Ok, back on topic :-p You have to have an understanding of not only their side but of our side as well. Take for instance before Bumbee and I got married, it was the BIGGEST task and struggle in getting my family to understand our side of where we are coming from. I mean for them to understand why I had come to Islam was a task, but to tell them that I'm not going to celebrate your holidays anymore. Errr that was even harder and to tell you the truth, it still is some times. But the key to everything was that I haven't totally said, NO I WON'T GO EAT YOUR TURKEY (Go see above) or NO I don't care that the whole family is going to be there. I'm NOT COMING SO LEAVE ME ALONE ABOUT IT.
Nope, I learned a much better way and Al-hamdulillah I have gained so much respect from my family now vs then and even though it's weird for them sometimes because they want to include us, they accept it more knowing and understanding in a way that doesn't make it so negative. In fact, they've even gone as far just to make it a FAMILY night instead of a celebration of a religious holiday. Thanksgiving isn't Thanksgiving anymore it's POT LUCK TURKEY NIGHT and Christmas is...Well still Christmas for them but I always come after all their fun stuff is done and enjoy my time with my family :o) And in turn I get an AWESOME text message like the one I got from my Mother on Friday wishing both Bumbee and I a wonderful EID (HOW COOL IS THAT!) So yeah it's how you present it as to how the outcome will be and I totally think that's awesome because well.....They are still my family and I love them to death.
SO here is the video that I came up with last year that gives everyone a better idea on how NOT to be during these holidays and how we as Muslims can Survive the Holiday Season and make a better impression :o)
1. Islam isn't so HUGE yet where it's really recognized totally as a holiday when we do celebrate our EID's. I mean I get so excited to see EID and Ramadan listed on US calenders and in day-planners that I go out of my way to buy JUST THOSE specific ones (Lame I know) But think about it in most cases we have to remind people that HEY EID is coming up, where of course with Christmas it's a gimme and it just happens.
2. It's hard to adjust especially when it comes to family and reverts who are the only ones in the family that are Muslim.
Well as I am a revert myself, I experienced this and still do dealing with a very wonderful but very diverse family who sometimes just don't understand why Bumbee and I don't celebrate and won't join them or participate in some of the functions that they have, but will on others. But it just depends on how you see things and how open you are.
I've heard SOOO many horror stories about New Muslims and even more seasoned Muslim who just BASH their family and friends playing Rocky Balboa in the ring because of their beliefs and reject EVERYTHING causing issues and rifts in families. You've just been sucker punched and ROUND ONE DOES NOT GO TO THE MUSLIMS because THIS IS SO NOT THE WAY TO DO THIS!
For Me, I guess you can say I'm a little bit more liberal and that depends on how close you are to the deen. I know that no matter what I'm not going to compromise my beliefs just for sharing your Turkey, Cranberry Blob and Sweet Potato Pie, if anything I wish Arabs would adopt those kinds of eating habits more **HINT, HINT**
Ok, back on topic :-p You have to have an understanding of not only their side but of our side as well. Take for instance before Bumbee and I got married, it was the BIGGEST task and struggle in getting my family to understand our side of where we are coming from. I mean for them to understand why I had come to Islam was a task, but to tell them that I'm not going to celebrate your holidays anymore. Errr that was even harder and to tell you the truth, it still is some times. But the key to everything was that I haven't totally said, NO I WON'T GO EAT YOUR TURKEY (Go see above) or NO I don't care that the whole family is going to be there. I'm NOT COMING SO LEAVE ME ALONE ABOUT IT.
Nope, I learned a much better way and Al-hamdulillah I have gained so much respect from my family now vs then and even though it's weird for them sometimes because they want to include us, they accept it more knowing and understanding in a way that doesn't make it so negative. In fact, they've even gone as far just to make it a FAMILY night instead of a celebration of a religious holiday. Thanksgiving isn't Thanksgiving anymore it's POT LUCK TURKEY NIGHT and Christmas is...Well still Christmas for them but I always come after all their fun stuff is done and enjoy my time with my family :o) And in turn I get an AWESOME text message like the one I got from my Mother on Friday wishing both Bumbee and I a wonderful EID (HOW COOL IS THAT!) So yeah it's how you present it as to how the outcome will be and I totally think that's awesome because well.....They are still my family and I love them to death.
SO here is the video that I came up with last year that gives everyone a better idea on how NOT to be during these holidays and how we as Muslims can Survive the Holiday Season and make a better impression :o)
Friday, November 27, 2009
Monday, November 23, 2009
Lessons learned from Iftar at the Masjid
It's that time of year again where when it's time to break fast, it's a mad rush for the tables of food, all for one and one for all right? Well, not always. In our small masjid every night for iftar we have a handful of people to deal with. Mostly brothers of course since for some reason these sisters tend to want to stay away from the Masjid (they might actually be smart in this respect.) So over the past few nights of going I've learned a few things:
Chivalry walks out the front door and heads for the bus station when Men are Hungry, two nights the men didn't ask for the sisters to go first and went ahead and gobble gobbled, how sweet of them.
Seconds are out of the question because the brothers never leave the table after the sisters are done.
Stacking your food high on the plate and then throwing it away is SUCH A WASTE! If anything, we could have got seconds out of that :-p
Hiding the drinks, juice and utensils on the men's side of the barrier is completely rude! I don't think the sisters have evolved backwards into the medieval times, We too deserve more then just water and something to pick our food up with.
Clucking at the sisters to hurry up and get through the line will NOT help your situation, you fasted for 14 hours during Ramadan, you can wait 5 more minutes!
Has anyone learned something from their masjids so far?
Sunday, November 22, 2009
When is enough, enough?
We're going to rewind to earlier this week, what did we find out? The exact day of Duh-Hajj and when to fast! How our remaining special time of the year filled with blessing and suplication to Allah(Swt)was again upon us. It's always a favorite of mine because I think of all of the Muslims decending upon Mecca, so excited and filled with anticipation for what will mark completing one of the five pillars for them! Insha'Allah my husband and I will be going very soon because it's something that I look forward to and want to do so badly.
OK, going back to what I was saying. It was officially annouced on Tuesday that the first moon-sighting for Dhul-Hijjah was in South Africa. It was then announced by Saudi that Eid-al-Adha was to be on Friday, November 27 while many thought it was going to be on Thursday (Thanksgiving here in the US) so as you can see you can't go by the calanders, you have to go actual sightings.
So I went into my job and explained to my HR manager that hey, we just found this out, it was announced and I asked if I could have a really EARLY shift that would allow me to leave at 6am so that I could enjoy my day (I never told them that I wouldn't work I just needed some flexablity.)
So within like 30 minutes (I had gone on lunch as this company for an 8 hour day only allows you a 30 minute break (not even an extra 15) I swear they are breaking laws somewhere) my HR manager told me that the only option I has was
1. Work 3pm-close because that was my availability
2. Work 7-4pm because everyone else had gotten the early shift already and he knew I would like either one but that's all he could do.
What could I say? I told him that he needed to try and make this happen but if I had to settle for anything (Because most of the festivities were at late afternoon to evening) that I guess I would have to do the 7-4pm if that was my only option. He said I know that doesn't make you happy but we will see what we can do for you.
OK to me that tells me your going to TRY and work with me. But that's all you can do! On a religious holiday! SERIOUSLY?! Ok, I understand that this is the BUSIEST day in the world for this company because it's black friday. but seriously, when I walked in there yesterday and saw that 3 people where scheduled at the guest services desk (where I was assigned) were scheduled until 6am-7am in the morning and I would be there from 7-4pm and one girl would be there from 3-cl by ourselves and TONS of over employees that were given the day off. UMMM NO WAY!
Now coming in and looking at ALLLLL of those employees that were NOT scheduled (I was shocked they didn't make everyone work) and were able to enjoy the day off. Believe me, I GOT MAD! How could I be treated like this from a company when this meant SO MUCH to me for this holiday and not just to me but for SOOO many Muslims around the world. I mean seriously, they take off for Thanksgiving and Christmas but when it comes to others, it's like they almost spit on us about it. So I walked up to the service desk, got my paycheck looked at my supervisor and promptly told her that I was leaving for good. I QUIT! I'm not going to allow them to run over me like this and no matter what amount of money, my religious values come first above everything else.
So as I'm walking out to my car, my supervisor who has NO idea what's going on at this point is running out of the store practically crying wondering what in the world was going on. She got to my car just in time to stop me and talk to me. After I told her what was up she was like, I'll call everyone in the world to get that switched for you (Funny, she would work with me because she appreciated everything I had done for them) and asked me to talk to the head store manager that was there.
**Sigh** If she wasn't a really awesome person and had been so kind to me, I would have pulled out because I already knew the answer I was going to get from the SM, but what I got was even more shocking.
So I told her I would stay because I was really putting the screws to them anyways by leaving on a Saturday night and I'm not a mean person. So I came back in to work. About 6:45ish I got called into the office to talk to the SM before she left. She was in there and one of the jerk managers who had treated me like crap since I got there, was the witness.
She was already on the defensive when I was in there. She asked me why I had a problem with the schedule. She told me that the HR manager had said that I went to him yesterday (WTFUDGE REALLY How could I go to him when 1. my car had died on Friday and 2. I wasn't SCHEDULED on Friday! what a liar!) about this and she wanted to know why I was having a problem with this schedule.
As I tried to explain to them the importance of this date she was like, you told HR manager that the 7-4 was ok because your only allowed to work 3-close on fridays anyway.
I told her that yes, I told him that because it was the only two options that he gave me but that he said he would work on getting the earlier shift too. Now it's also funny that he was still asking for people to OPEN at the midnight shift after he told me that but because I work guest services that this was all I could get. Technically I wasn't HIRED for guest services, they put me up there I was supposed to work on the floor and as a cashier.
Second, she said that everyone was given the opportunity to request the early shift before this through a sign up sheet. WTFUDGE AGAIN, NEVER SAW NO SHEET AND NEITHER DID ANYONE ELSE, those who had worked there BEFORE the temps were hired got the special hours, everything else they walked around and asked employees for. If there was a sheet why were people being ASKED to work by the HR manager on the Midnight shift.
But also because of the limited amount of people on the service desk (how is that MY FAULT? Your lack of training and experience in front end operations isn't my fault, at Wal-Mart I made SURE I was staffed and ready for the week of) So because of this, I would not be able to take the day off because of how they needed people up there.
I explain AGAIN to her the meaning of this holiday which she PROMPTLY REPLIED.
"I find it really hard to believe that this just CAME UP and you just FOUND OUT and Friday was the day that was chosen."
ARE YOU CALLING ME A LIAR! GO FRIGGING GOOGLE IT. I swear I stood there looking dumbfounded because she just basically called not only me a liar but the date EID was going to fall on a Lie just so that I can get out to SHOP on the biggest day of the YEAR. Ummmm THAT DOES NOT FLY WITH ME because I'm there for tuition money for spring semester and If they saw how I lived they would see that the $5.00 toaster oven you can get a wal-mart isn't my cup of tea! I don't shop, I hate shopping and I've dealt with 10 years of Black Fridays, do you think that I'm going to use this ONE YEAR to go out and try and get some crappy cheap merchandise.
They seriously don't know me.
SO I told her again to google it and see that we're on a lunar calender and we don't know until the day OF or before when we are supposed to fast or when our holiday will be.
She then got mad at me and was like. "I have been spending a month working on this schedule of 150 employees to make sure that everything would be ok on this day. BUT FINE TAKE THE DAY OFF! JUST TAKE IT OFF, WE'LL PUT SOMEONE ELSE UP THERE, JUST TAKE IT OFF. "
I looked at her because at that point, my blood was boiling so badly, I was like yeah you have 150 employees to deal with working on a schedule you started Wed or Thursday when I in my previous job helped with 400-450 employee schedules 3-4 WEEKS BEFORE the week it was due. So yeah I understand that you might have been working a few days on this schedule but it wasn't a month, clearly another lie (She had just started it on Thursday because that's when everyone was being requested to work early and that's when she ALWAYS starts it because we NEVER get our schedules until Friday or Saturday giving us 1 or 2 days before we know when we work the next week)
So after that I left the office. My supervisor could see the look on my face when I walked out. I told her I wasn't leaving because I don't go back on my word that I would work for her that night, she at that point could see I was at my boiling point and already knew I wasn't coming back after tonight. She even hugged me before she left and before the SM stopped by the guest services desk before leaving after that conversation and said...AFTER she already snapped at me about JUST TAKE THE DAY OFF.
"We're going to get someone to switch with you so you can work the early morning shift because there are three up here. We'll let you know"
Like that's going fix anything after you already called me a liar and I already know those employees would NOT switch that shift for their lives because they all wanted to go shop afterword and all I wanted to do was go Pray EID pray and enjoy the afternoon with friends and family as we celebrated this special day. I just looked at her as she left. WAS SHE KIDDING ME, she turns from EVIL WOMAN TO OPPS I DID A BOO BOO, Your not going to take the day off but we'll fix it.
WHY COULDN'T THEY HAVE FIXED IT BEFORE ALL THIS BLUFFY STUFF!
But THINGS GOT WORSE. I was given lunch at almost 8pm. Bumbee, my wonderful husband, brought me some food from the Iftar they had had at the Mosque that I had to miss :o( and believe me I was STARVING by this time he walked in. It's always good to see someone that doesn't make your eyes sore looking at them. I told him what happened and that I was leaving that night because they CLEARLY didn't respect other beliefs from their own. He agreed with me, wondering why I wasn't just leaving then, but I told him I had to keep my word because I told them I would work and I never go behind what I said even though I could have goofed off and just stood there doing nothing, I still gave them everything I had because ethically that's me. Ahh it was dinner time!
Needless to say, the manager who had been in there in the room with the SM all night had come out and decided to be a TOTAL Snot all night and at 11:30pm, 1 hour before I was to leave my shift I had been through enough after he snarked off on me again. Took my name badge off, walked over and clocked out before handed them to him telling him he could give those to my Store Manager.
SHOCK AND AWE...Ummm yeah I believe so.
But I've never felt so good about a decision when it came to work like that before. In my previous job, my manager who, I still talk to and RESPECT so much, would always work with me as much as possible with anything that came up on religious issues, holidays or special dates and I always did what I could to help them out, volunteering on shifts to work so the other managers could enjoy the holiday with their families, it was the you scratch my back and I'll scratch yours.
That's respect and what this company offered was none-what-so-ever. So in the end, they've lost a really good employee (funny I even got the best compliment from a customer that night to my total snot of a manager and he just didn't care and didn't give me any words of thanks or even a piss off) and yet they still didn't appreciate what I had done, so as they don't respect me, I don't respect them and they had BETTER be ready for the letter I am going to fire off to their corporate HR.
Because this defines religious intolerance and discrimination to the best definition that google or ANYONE could ever come up with.
But Freedom today, I'll take :o)
OK, going back to what I was saying. It was officially annouced on Tuesday that the first moon-sighting for Dhul-Hijjah was in South Africa. It was then announced by Saudi that Eid-al-Adha was to be on Friday, November 27 while many thought it was going to be on Thursday (Thanksgiving here in the US) so as you can see you can't go by the calanders, you have to go actual sightings.
So I went into my job and explained to my HR manager that hey, we just found this out, it was announced and I asked if I could have a really EARLY shift that would allow me to leave at 6am so that I could enjoy my day (I never told them that I wouldn't work I just needed some flexablity.)
So within like 30 minutes (I had gone on lunch as this company for an 8 hour day only allows you a 30 minute break (not even an extra 15) I swear they are breaking laws somewhere) my HR manager told me that the only option I has was
1. Work 3pm-close because that was my availability
2. Work 7-4pm because everyone else had gotten the early shift already and he knew I would like either one but that's all he could do.
What could I say? I told him that he needed to try and make this happen but if I had to settle for anything (Because most of the festivities were at late afternoon to evening) that I guess I would have to do the 7-4pm if that was my only option. He said I know that doesn't make you happy but we will see what we can do for you.
OK to me that tells me your going to TRY and work with me. But that's all you can do! On a religious holiday! SERIOUSLY?! Ok, I understand that this is the BUSIEST day in the world for this company because it's black friday. but seriously, when I walked in there yesterday and saw that 3 people where scheduled at the guest services desk (where I was assigned) were scheduled until 6am-7am in the morning and I would be there from 7-4pm and one girl would be there from 3-cl by ourselves and TONS of over employees that were given the day off. UMMM NO WAY!
Now coming in and looking at ALLLLL of those employees that were NOT scheduled (I was shocked they didn't make everyone work) and were able to enjoy the day off. Believe me, I GOT MAD! How could I be treated like this from a company when this meant SO MUCH to me for this holiday and not just to me but for SOOO many Muslims around the world. I mean seriously, they take off for Thanksgiving and Christmas but when it comes to others, it's like they almost spit on us about it. So I walked up to the service desk, got my paycheck looked at my supervisor and promptly told her that I was leaving for good. I QUIT! I'm not going to allow them to run over me like this and no matter what amount of money, my religious values come first above everything else.
So as I'm walking out to my car, my supervisor who has NO idea what's going on at this point is running out of the store practically crying wondering what in the world was going on. She got to my car just in time to stop me and talk to me. After I told her what was up she was like, I'll call everyone in the world to get that switched for you (Funny, she would work with me because she appreciated everything I had done for them) and asked me to talk to the head store manager that was there.
**Sigh** If she wasn't a really awesome person and had been so kind to me, I would have pulled out because I already knew the answer I was going to get from the SM, but what I got was even more shocking.
So I told her I would stay because I was really putting the screws to them anyways by leaving on a Saturday night and I'm not a mean person. So I came back in to work. About 6:45ish I got called into the office to talk to the SM before she left. She was in there and one of the jerk managers who had treated me like crap since I got there, was the witness.
She was already on the defensive when I was in there. She asked me why I had a problem with the schedule. She told me that the HR manager had said that I went to him yesterday (WTFUDGE REALLY How could I go to him when 1. my car had died on Friday and 2. I wasn't SCHEDULED on Friday! what a liar!) about this and she wanted to know why I was having a problem with this schedule.
As I tried to explain to them the importance of this date she was like, you told HR manager that the 7-4 was ok because your only allowed to work 3-close on fridays anyway.
I told her that yes, I told him that because it was the only two options that he gave me but that he said he would work on getting the earlier shift too. Now it's also funny that he was still asking for people to OPEN at the midnight shift after he told me that but because I work guest services that this was all I could get. Technically I wasn't HIRED for guest services, they put me up there I was supposed to work on the floor and as a cashier.
Second, she said that everyone was given the opportunity to request the early shift before this through a sign up sheet. WTFUDGE AGAIN, NEVER SAW NO SHEET AND NEITHER DID ANYONE ELSE, those who had worked there BEFORE the temps were hired got the special hours, everything else they walked around and asked employees for. If there was a sheet why were people being ASKED to work by the HR manager on the Midnight shift.
But also because of the limited amount of people on the service desk (how is that MY FAULT? Your lack of training and experience in front end operations isn't my fault, at Wal-Mart I made SURE I was staffed and ready for the week of) So because of this, I would not be able to take the day off because of how they needed people up there.
I explain AGAIN to her the meaning of this holiday which she PROMPTLY REPLIED.
"I find it really hard to believe that this just CAME UP and you just FOUND OUT and Friday was the day that was chosen."
ARE YOU CALLING ME A LIAR! GO FRIGGING GOOGLE IT. I swear I stood there looking dumbfounded because she just basically called not only me a liar but the date EID was going to fall on a Lie just so that I can get out to SHOP on the biggest day of the YEAR. Ummmm THAT DOES NOT FLY WITH ME because I'm there for tuition money for spring semester and If they saw how I lived they would see that the $5.00 toaster oven you can get a wal-mart isn't my cup of tea! I don't shop, I hate shopping and I've dealt with 10 years of Black Fridays, do you think that I'm going to use this ONE YEAR to go out and try and get some crappy cheap merchandise.
They seriously don't know me.
SO I told her again to google it and see that we're on a lunar calender and we don't know until the day OF or before when we are supposed to fast or when our holiday will be.
She then got mad at me and was like. "I have been spending a month working on this schedule of 150 employees to make sure that everything would be ok on this day. BUT FINE TAKE THE DAY OFF! JUST TAKE IT OFF, WE'LL PUT SOMEONE ELSE UP THERE, JUST TAKE IT OFF. "
I looked at her because at that point, my blood was boiling so badly, I was like yeah you have 150 employees to deal with working on a schedule you started Wed or Thursday when I in my previous job helped with 400-450 employee schedules 3-4 WEEKS BEFORE the week it was due. So yeah I understand that you might have been working a few days on this schedule but it wasn't a month, clearly another lie (She had just started it on Thursday because that's when everyone was being requested to work early and that's when she ALWAYS starts it because we NEVER get our schedules until Friday or Saturday giving us 1 or 2 days before we know when we work the next week)
So after that I left the office. My supervisor could see the look on my face when I walked out. I told her I wasn't leaving because I don't go back on my word that I would work for her that night, she at that point could see I was at my boiling point and already knew I wasn't coming back after tonight. She even hugged me before she left and before the SM stopped by the guest services desk before leaving after that conversation and said...AFTER she already snapped at me about JUST TAKE THE DAY OFF.
"We're going to get someone to switch with you so you can work the early morning shift because there are three up here. We'll let you know"
Like that's going fix anything after you already called me a liar and I already know those employees would NOT switch that shift for their lives because they all wanted to go shop afterword and all I wanted to do was go Pray EID pray and enjoy the afternoon with friends and family as we celebrated this special day. I just looked at her as she left. WAS SHE KIDDING ME, she turns from EVIL WOMAN TO OPPS I DID A BOO BOO, Your not going to take the day off but we'll fix it.
WHY COULDN'T THEY HAVE FIXED IT BEFORE ALL THIS BLUFFY STUFF!
But THINGS GOT WORSE. I was given lunch at almost 8pm. Bumbee, my wonderful husband, brought me some food from the Iftar they had had at the Mosque that I had to miss :o( and believe me I was STARVING by this time he walked in. It's always good to see someone that doesn't make your eyes sore looking at them. I told him what happened and that I was leaving that night because they CLEARLY didn't respect other beliefs from their own. He agreed with me, wondering why I wasn't just leaving then, but I told him I had to keep my word because I told them I would work and I never go behind what I said even though I could have goofed off and just stood there doing nothing, I still gave them everything I had because ethically that's me. Ahh it was dinner time!
Needless to say, the manager who had been in there in the room with the SM all night had come out and decided to be a TOTAL Snot all night and at 11:30pm, 1 hour before I was to leave my shift I had been through enough after he snarked off on me again. Took my name badge off, walked over and clocked out before handed them to him telling him he could give those to my Store Manager.
SHOCK AND AWE...Ummm yeah I believe so.
But I've never felt so good about a decision when it came to work like that before. In my previous job, my manager who, I still talk to and RESPECT so much, would always work with me as much as possible with anything that came up on religious issues, holidays or special dates and I always did what I could to help them out, volunteering on shifts to work so the other managers could enjoy the holiday with their families, it was the you scratch my back and I'll scratch yours.
That's respect and what this company offered was none-what-so-ever. So in the end, they've lost a really good employee (funny I even got the best compliment from a customer that night to my total snot of a manager and he just didn't care and didn't give me any words of thanks or even a piss off) and yet they still didn't appreciate what I had done, so as they don't respect me, I don't respect them and they had BETTER be ready for the letter I am going to fire off to their corporate HR.
Because this defines religious intolerance and discrimination to the best definition that google or ANYONE could ever come up with.
But Freedom today, I'll take :o)
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